Now before I start, let me preface this by saying, that I, myself, have been guilty of what I like to call the ‘push back’. You know, when the person you’ve been seeing starts getting a little too relationship-y, therefore causing you to push back and say “Hey, hold up, I ain’t ready for allathat” or in most cases, not saying anything at all and just acting distant like a sonofamother.
Yeah, you’ve done it too. Stop lying.
But let me tell you, some of y’all, be pushing back over the dumbest things. I once had a dude start acting funny cause I gave his ass a toothbrush after one of our sleepovers. Yes, a toothbrush. Now, wasn’t nobody trying to lock him down, make him the next Mr. DidyoureallythinkIwasfinnatellyoumylastname. I just was trying to make sure that if he was going to be waking up next to me, breathing all in my face, that said breath was minty fresh. I mean, excuse me for not wanting your funky breath all up in my face in the morning.
Basically, some people just really need to chill the fuck out. Not everybody is trying to cuff you. Just cause they like it, doesn’t mean they’re trying to put a ring on it (I really don’t know what Beyonce was thinking about with them lyrics).
Now, there are some clear-cut signs of stalker-ism that do require the push back in full force, but that’s a blog for another day.
Be safe kids. And remember, hugs not drugs.
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guys love any reason to “push back” (which btw i LOVE that phrase!) – in my case the times i really did push back were the times when dudes were bringing up marriage and i just wasn’t ready. but over a toothbrush? thank gawd that guy took off, that’s some nonsense. can’t imagine what the future would’ve brought with that one lol
I remember you from livejournal and you hosted me YEARS ago on one of your other sites.
Anyways, I must admit that I’ve been guilty of doing this. However, it was all in good reasoning.
Dude really needs to chill out. A toothbrush and now he’s scared YOU’RE going to propose to him. Geez..
I know for a fact that I do this.
But, I must say I loved this entry. It made me smile.
The push back is never what you think it is, really.
As a guy, I push back so the relationship gets back to that relaxed point because I don’t want to distress a girl by not reciprocating what she’s feeling at the same intensity.
This way, she gets a subtle message and she re-assesses.
I think it is funny that Steupz thinks a girl will re-assess and not just say fvck it.
This is really good and has certainly made me rethink